Can Bullies Change?

September 24th, 2013   •   Abrasive executives, Leadership   •   Comments Off on Can Bullies Change?   

by Jen Sellers

bully4Is there a leader in your organization whom people are afraid of? Or who demoralizes and demotivates? Perhaps you’ve heard comments like these:

My boss is nice one minute and yelling obscenities the next.

He’s a control freak – everything has to be his way or you’re snubbed.

She gets mad when everyone isn’t willing to be superhuman and work like she does.

He constantly reams people out publicly in emails.

Often, abrasive behavior is allowed to continue indefinitely. Why? Because these leaders are generally highly valued for their business acumen or technical abilities and feared for their tendency to run rough-shod over people.

Bullying leaders know what they’re doing and don’t care, and even if they did they can’t change. Right? No! Based on the research and my own experience with leaders who exhibit abrasive behaviors, it is worthwhile for organizations to intervene.

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Why Coaching has Grown

May 8th, 2013   •   Articles, Blog   •   Comments Off on Why Coaching has Grown   

Why has coaching grown so much? Because it works. Professional Coaching results in increased productivity, positive people and has a huge return on investment. Data taken from the 2009 ICF Global Coaching Client Study.

Turn Up the Willingness Dial

July 30th, 2012   •   Articles, Blog   •   Comments Off on Turn Up the Willingness Dial   

by Kate Harper

Leadership RetreatsPain is inevitable, suffering is optional. I’ll never forget reading this First Noble Truth in Sylvia Boorstein’s It’s Easier Than You Think: The Buddhist Way to Happiness. I was 42 at the time. When I was 12, my father died of malignant melanoma. I felt abandoned, let down by God, alternately mad and sad and numb. Thirty years of suffering.

This Noble Truth resonated deeply. It felt both honest – yes life can be hard and painful, and hopeful – I don’t have to suffer. I began to explore ways to find happiness and lessen suffering: practicing meditation and yoga, focusing on letting in the good, being kind to myself, staying present. How I experience life is forever changed. Thank you Sylvia! Thank you Buddha!

Imagine a Dial in the Brain

Imagine that each of us has a dial in our brain labeled Suffering that can be turned up or down. I have practiced turning down the dial on suffering. When negative emotions arise, I do my best to not resist and allow the experience. When things don’t go the way I want, I notice when I want to beat myself up and try kindness instead. I have spent a good deal of time and energy tuning my Suffering Dial. So imagine my shock when I read Martha Beck’s blog post on the Willingness Factor. She writes:

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Self Awareness and Coaching

October 4th, 2011   •   Articles, Blog   •   Comments Off on Self Awareness and Coaching   

by Sheri Boone, MCC

oakcreek1Today I was sitting in a coffee shop, taking a break from my office and computer. Sitting at the next table was a young woman and her friend. As much as I tried to focus on myself and not listen to her conversation, her proximity and the level of her voice made that pretty much impossible.

Her conversation was very intense; she was quite heated up, and was frankly what I would call “righteously indignant” about a variety of topics. I suddenly thought: “I recognize her.” I realized that I was this young woman once upon a time — so sure of my own opinion, my own views, and my own righteous indignation. And so, in that moment, I was able to let go of my judgment.

Lately, I’ve been very aware of how that young woman still shows up in me. How, as much as I want to be in a place of not judging others, I still do it with alarming frequency. And, I would rather not. But, there you have it — I still do.

Here is what I also know: when I judge others, I’m really judging myself. So, as long as I’m aware of doing it, aware of that judgmental voice, I can either choose to continue to listen to it, or I can make a new choice. Here then, is the real work to be done — on how I judge myself. In that moment of awareness, I can choose to love myself a little more.

I believe that to be a masterful coach, one must be masterfully self-aware. What’s your self-awareness today?

Take More Breaks; Get More Done

September 30th, 2011   •   Articles, Blog   •   Comments Off on Take More Breaks; Get More Done   

Have you ever become convinced that if you work harder you’ll get more done? Hard work can be invigorating and inspiring. At the same time, we humans weren’t meant to sprint indefinitely. Overwork leads to a foggy mind and burn-out, while slowing down and taking breaks leads to creative thinking and better ways to get things done. I was headed down the overwork road recently, and I’m happy to say I woke up before I got to that dead end.

It happens to our clients sometimes, too. Two of them coached with me recently. They’re consultants who are gearing up for more work after the relaxed pace of summer. Cassandra O’Neill and Sarah Griffiths of Wholonomy Consulting are business partners who pay attention not just to what they do but to how they do it.

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Pause Book and Cards Now Available

June 20th, 2011   •   News   •   Comments Off on Pause Book and Cards Now Available   

Inspired Mastery is excited to announce the publication of our new card deck and book for leaders, Pause: 52 Ways to Shift Any Outcome in Less Than a Minute.

We’ve put together 52 short practices of in-the-moment inspiration for leaders and teams. Each practice creates a pause, opening a space for a new perspective that can transform any situation.

Marshall Goldsmith, author of What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and MOJO, says our book and cards are, “a great resource for leaders everywhere.” Some of our other readers say:

  • “Any one of the 52 practices can help me to slow down and gain a healthy perspective when I get overwhelmed.” (Pat Inman)
  • “It made me stop and reflect when things get a little stressful during the day and it gave me something to focus on.” (Marjorie Ray)
  • “Pause provides unmatched guidance through inspirational quotes, practical examples, thought-provoking questions, and thoughtful articles.” (Jennifer Wolff Jones)

Watch a very short video of a satisfied Pause user talk about how she uses the book and cards.

What we love about our creation is that it’s not just a book. The card deck is a unique approach to gaining inspiration and unleashing insight.

The book and cards are available at our bookstore. You can also buy the book in print or kindle versions on Amazon, the Nook version on Barnes and Noble, and epub version for all other readers at Inspired Mastery Store on Lulu. Cards are only available at the Inspired Mastery website.

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