Are You Abrasive?
If you’ve been referred to me because you’ve been told your behaviors are abrasive or you wonder if your reactions might be turning people off, this page is for you. If you are being perceived as abrasive, even though your company highly values your contribution, your behavior is limiting your potential and having an adverse impact on others. In fact, your career may be at stake because of your leadership style.
Is this you?
Do you see yourself in any of these behaviors? You may feel that these are some of your best traits. And some of them probably are!
- You’re hard-charging and maybe even hard-headed.
- You have extremely high standards and find it intolerable when they aren’t met.
- You’re very direct.
- You are impatient with incompetence.
- You have a short fuse, anger easily, and show it readily.
- You judge quickly and harshly.
- You generally see matters and decisions in black and white.
You’re satisfied with your high performance, and yet:
- You wonder why getting the most out of your team is a struggle.
- Sometimes people get flustered or upset with your reactions to something they’ve brought to you, though you’re just being direct.
- People on your team have left the company or moved to another division, maybe saying it was too difficult to work with you.
- Your manager or HR has told you they’re concerned about how you treat people, that you’re too demanding or abrasive.
You have a choice
Does any of this strike a chord? Even if you see yourself in only some of the above, you could be limiting your effectiveness. You may be wondering if you can change the parts that don’t serve you while maintaining your best traits and your authentic self. You may feel that you don’t even want to try. For all the accomplishments in your life, this may be the hardest challenge you’ve faced.
But you have a choice to get past this roadblock and achieve something greater. If you’re willing to consider meeting this challenge head-on, I want to speak with you. When we work together, you have an absolutely confidential safe-zone to think out loud, explore, and make the oftentimes small yet meaningful adjustments in your behavior that will help you achieve your ultimate potential and goals. You discover new and authentic ways to be even more effective.
Contact me and let’s talk about your particular situation, your questions, and your concerns. If you’d like, I’ll also give you a couple of tools to try right away.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Jennifer Sellers
