Congratulations to Tessa David

January 5th, 2015   •   Blog, News   •   Comments Off on Congratulations to Tessa David   

tessaCongratulations to Tessa David, the winner of our Pause download raffle. Tessa won a hard copy of the Pause book and cards and two coaching sessions with the Inspired Mastery coach of her choice. Tessa is director of MassToss, a solid waste cooperative in North Central Massachusetts. An avid recyler and leader in protecting the environment, Tessa was named Recycler of the Year 2012 by MassRecycle. She even made her dress to wear to the award ceremony out of recycled plastic newspaper wrappers (story and picture here).

Tessa has chosen to work with Sheri Boone, MCC. She liked Sheri’s philosophy and style of coaching, which she learned about by watching Sheri’s video on our website.

Congrats to Tessa and thank you to everyone who downloaded the Kindle edition of our Pause book.


A Word About Acceptance

November 24th, 2014   •   Articles, Blog, Leadership, Mindful leadership, Personal mastery   •   Comments Off on A Word About Acceptance   

by Jen Sellers

Path and Butte

Accept what is and your role in creating it, and you become empowered to create something different. – Alan Seale

In a Mindful Leadership seminar I conducted a couple of weeks ago at a bank in Phoenix, the word acceptance came up as an aspect of mindfulness. It had me thinking about what acceptance is and what acceptance isn’t, especially when it comes to our own leadership mastery. These are my brief thoughts.

What it is:

  • Seeing clearly what is here, not what we wish were here, hope will be here, or even expect to be here
  • An attitude of meeting a situation as it is without fighting it or pushing against it
  • The ability to feel whatever emotions are arising without letting them take over
  • A practice in equanimity

What it isn’t:

  • Saying “Whatever!” with an air of frustration and despair
  • The idea that “It’s all good.” It is often not good, but it is
  • Giving in
  • Giving up

What does acceptance mean to you? We’d love to hear from you!

Stopping the Anxiety Drain

August 14th, 2014   •   Articles, Blog, Leadership, Mindful leadership, Personal mastery   •   Comments Off on Stopping the Anxiety Drain   

by Jen Sellers

PeytoLakeMy client Xavier had a niggling problem. As a senior leader and member of the personnel development team, he fosters the growth of individuals across the organization, including recommending transfers to grow new leaders and advance careers. Yet, if too many of his best people go to other locations, the performance of his division could be compromised.

Xavier only had a glimmer that this nagging issue was subtly draining him. We talked it through and he developed a plan which included prioritizing the most essential people at his site, looking at who could replace them from other sites, and preparing a time of overlap. When we were finished, I asked him what had been important in our discussion, and he said, “I turned a worry into action.”

In our next session, Xavier described how he dealt with another concern, the latest obstacle in a difficult plant start-up. Without realizing it, he had again turned worry into action.

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Receiving the Gift of Feedback

June 3rd, 2014   •   Articles, Blog, Leadership, Personal mastery   •   Comments Off on Receiving the Gift of Feedback   

by Kate Harper

feedbackcycle“How many of you regularly ask for feedback?” One hand out of 10 is raised. The rest of the group looks stricken. These leaders are voluntarily here for a class on receiving feedback and still the topic is uncomfortable.

What makes receiving feedback so difficult? “The process strikes at the tension between two core human needs—the need to learn and grow, and the need to be accepted just the way you are,” say Sheila Heen and Douglas Stone, in their Harvard Business Review article, Find the Coaching in Criticism.

Intellectually we understand the value of feedback – it helps us gauge if we are being effective and see inside our blind spots. No company would bring a product to market without getting customer input. Yet when the product is our self, even the thought of someone else’s helpful suggestion can trigger a strong defensive reaction.

Think back to the last time you received unsolicited feedback. Did you want to argue? Run away? Or were you temporarily frozen in place? Perhaps it was a combination: I can’t punch my boss so I’ll just say nothing. Our brain interprets feedback as a threat. The threat causes anxiety which triggers a defense – fight, flight or freeze.

This is a very basic protective mechanism. Even the most enlightened among us will get triggered. So what can you do? One way to receive feedback more easily is understand what triggers you, recognize your physical and emotional reaction, and engage the larger self by asking, “How do I choose to respond?”

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Get Outta Here!

April 8th, 2014   •   Articles, Blog, Leadership, Personal mastery   •   Comments Off on Get Outta Here!   

by Jen Sellers

benchWow. Think of how much time you spend inside, disconnected from the natural world. I say this not to discourage you or disparage you, but to encourage you to reflect.

For example, it’s about 65 degrees outside and gorgeous here in Tucson. I just opened my window. That’s because I reflected for a moment on how much time I spend inside. And then I thought, “Okay, I work from home, for crying out loud – why couldn’t I go sit on a bench in the yard?” So that’s where I am now, a mesquite tree shading my laptop screen. That’s the power of internal reflection. It changes external actions.

There are a bunch of reasons to get outside, as we all know.

I feel more alive just sitting out here. I feel more clear-headed, more connected to myself, and more in my body. Several varieties of birds are singing, the trees are waving gently in a slight breeze, and a small neighbor girl is doing outside chores with her Mom.  I am more connected to the world.

When I walk the dog every morning and evening, my body moves, which benefits my mind and my spirit. The left-right motion is good for my brain. If I pay attention, I see patterns of beauty and sometimes patterns of pain. Both connect me with the world outside myself. As I let my mind go, ideas come to me and problems sometimes solve themselves. Wisdom seems to find me. I have more vitality, not only physically, but also emotionally and intellectually.

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Accepting the Peaks and Valleys

January 27th, 2014   •   Articles, Blog, Leadership, Personal mastery   •   Comments Off on Accepting the Peaks and Valleys   

by Sheri Boone

Mt. JeffersonThere’s a really sweet little book by Dr. Seuss called, Oh, the Places You’ll Go. I came into contact with it over 20 years ago when my son was graduating from high school. A friend gave him the book; it was and still is a very popular gift for graduates. Years later, this book was used in my first coach training, illustrating the ups and downs of life – the peaks and valleys that we all go through on this journey.

Lately I’ve been reminded of the book and its message of how normal and natural it is to at one moment be on top of a mountain, on top of my game, with all the excitement and hope that peak provides, and then quite suddenly be in the valley of sadness, loneliness, or even despair, with all of the downward spiraling emotions that are present in that place.

At any given time, a lot of factors can be influencing whether or not we are at the peak or in the valley. And don’t we all prefer to be at the peak? I feel that for the most part, I live in the area of the peak. I’m quite happy and hold a positive outlook. But, once in a while, I find myself deep in the valley. What then? How can I navigate this place and find a path back up the mountain?

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